Dating issues interracial relationships
And if there are folks willing to read it, than you can place the blame solely on black media for continuing to cater to their audience. So much for thinking that the milk is less spoiled on the other side.Which leads me to ask: If the color of the person we choose to date doesn’t matter, why do we talk about it so much? Truth is, championing dating interracially to empower the black community, particularly black women, is no more logical or rational than the colorblind racists, who believe that breeding ourselves into one in-between race will fix the world (yeah, like that worked for the Chinese and the Japanese).So obviously these stories are very popular, which is why these publications continue to put them out. are still looking, waiting and idolizing the white savior.After all, stories mean page clicks, and page clicks equates to dollars. Yet science says that some of the same problems we find within the community can also be found interracially: In fact, the rate of divorce and domestic violence is much higher within interracial relationships and the incidence of spousal homicide is 7.7 higher in interracial relationships than in monoracial relationships.What can be even more disheartening than seeing your beautiful, professional, well-educated sisterfriend still unattached is seeing a successful Black man settle down with someone of another ethnic group.The immediate thought for many is, With all the gorgeous, accomplished Black women available, why didn't he choose one of us?
However, it seems like almost daily I come across a news post, and columns in magazines and blogs dedicated to black folks, speaking about the glory of dating outside of the black community.Here is the standard disclaimer: I don’t have a problem with two folks of different races – or same gender for that matter – hooking up. How we empower our people is by teaching self-love and by erasing those mental chains that tell us that “we” are inherently bad.Some people really do date outside of their race out of love and not some underlying motive. We heal the world by recognizing cultural differences, and yes skin tone, and by ensuring that our differences do not lead to inequality. However, if you are using love and sex as some sort of political statement, position for advancement or weapon of revenge and conquest, than you are no better, and odds are, you’re more part of the problem than you think.Lachon, who is seeing a White man, has experienced her share of adverse reaction."I've come across a lot of men who tell me I should be ashamed and say things like, "It's not too late to come home" or "He won't know what to do with all of that." I've heard it all. But the negative comments can be more distressing when they come from family or close friends.Asia Diggs Meador, 33, had never considered marrying outside her race.
They ask stupid questions like and write guidebooks about snagging a white man (including the helpful tip of how to order wine the “white” way).